KEYS TO COMPROMISE

In the beginning
I thought I made
Heroic compromises;
I dwelled too much
On the "hero" part.

Establishing our home
I thought I should teach
Countless lessons;
I dwelled too much
On the "teaching" role.

During early disagreements
I thought I gave in
Unnecessarily;
I dwelled too much
On the "I" word.

I saw a multitude
Of faults:
I thought I needed
To correct his
Not mine
Until
I found the greatest fault
In me:
Trying to change him
Instead of myself.

Concerns are different now:

Does the issue really matter?
If the answer is "no"
What is the point?

What am I giving up?
If the answer is "nothing"
Why should I care?

Can I adjust my thinking?
If the answer is "yes"
Why waste time arguing?

We have learned to
Listen first
Think next
Speak last
Teach by example

We have found
Our keys to compromise.

If only
I didn't
Keep losing
Those keys!

A Quote

From the beginning of our history the country has been afflicted with compromise. It is by compromise that human rights have been ;abandoned. - Charles Sumner

Compromise

All government, indeed every human benefit and enjoyment, every virtue, and every prudent act, is founded on compromise and barter.

Fatherly Love

Inspirational and Heart Touching Story "The Father and son".....

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. 

Suddenly a crow perched on their window. 

The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"

The Son replied "It is a crow".

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"

The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow". 

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, What is this?"

At this time some ex-pression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow" 

A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, "What is this?" 

This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT 
IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening
a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the 

following words were written in the diary :-

"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and 
I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I
did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child". 

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when
today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

Lesson to learn from This Story:

If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.

From today say this aloud, 

"I want to see my parents Happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me.

They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".

Say a prayer to God/ALLAH, "I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.

Mother's Love

Mothers Love

1. My mom only had one eye. I hated her... she was such an .embarrassment
2. She cooked for students & teachers to .support the family
3. There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to .say hello to me
4. I was so embarrassed. How could she do this ?to me
5. I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and .ran out
6. The next day at school one of my classmates said, \"EEEE, your mom only has \"!one eye
7. I wanted to bury myself. I also wanted my mom to .just disappear
8. So I confronted her that day and said, \" If you're only gonna make me a laughing stock, why \"!!!?don't you just die
9. My mom did not ...respond
10. I didnt even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was .full of anger
11. I was oblivious to her .feelings
12. I wanted out of that house, and have .nothing to do with her
13. So I studied real hard, got a chance to go to .Singapore to study
14. Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. .I had kids of my own
15. I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts
16. Then one day, my mother .came to visit me
17. She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even .meet her grandchildren
18. When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at her for coming .over uninvited
19. I screamed at her, \"How dare you come to my house and scare my children!\" \"!!!GET OUT OF HERE! NOW
20. And to this, my mother quietly answered, \"Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address,\" and she disappeared .out of sight
21. One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my .house in Singapore
22. So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business .trip
23. After the reunion, I went to the .old shack just out of curiosity
24. My neighbors said that .she died
25. I did not shed a single .tear
26. They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to .have
27. My dearest son,\" I think of you all the time. I'm sorry that I came to Singapore and scared your .children
28. I was so glad when I heard you were coming .for the reunion
29. But I may not be able to even get out of bed to .see you
30. I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were .growing up
31. You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost .your eye
32. As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you having .to grow up with one eye
33. .So I gave you mine
34. I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my .place, with that eye
35. ,With my love to you
36. Your mother.

Mother's Love never die

The mysteries of life and a mother’s undying love for her children…

Keegan froze at the computer as the sound of the doorbell sent shivers down his spine.

It was late…too late for anyone decent to be coming over for a visit but there it was again.

Now his wife Jennifer stuck her head into the room with a look of fear and dread on her pretty young face.

“Keegan, did you hear the doorbell?”

“Yes, I did, honey” he answered as he stood to leave the small back room of their Victorian home.

“Who could it be at this hour, Keegan?”

“I don’t know…but I’ll find out!” He said quickly as he rushed past her.

As Keegan neared the small foyer, he slowed his steps and strained to look through the white lace curtains that covered the square window on the antique oak door.

He couldn’t see anyone standing there but yet the doorbell rang out for a third time.

He didn’t turn on any lights but moved quietly in the darkness.

Reaching the door, he very carefully pulled the edge of the curtains back so that he could see out onto the large wooden porch without being seen by anyone standing on the other side of the door.

He smiled now as he hollered out to Jennifer that everything was okay.

“It’s just mom, Jen!”

“Oh, thank God!” She called back to him from the family room.

“Hi mom, come on in!”

“How are you tonight?”

The house seemed to settle in and breathe easier once again.

Church services were over for another Sunday and the young couple now sat down at the usual table to enjoy coffee and donuts with their friends Jo and Carol.

The small church family always enjoyed their time together and today would be no different.

“So, what did you guys do yesterday?” Jo asked as she sat down.

“Oh nothing much…” Jennifer answered.

“Well, my mom came over late last night”. Keegan said with a smile.

“And scared Jen and I have to death!” he added.

“Oh? How late did she come over?” Jo asked with a chuckle.

The couple turned to look at each other before answering.

“What was it, honey…about 11:00?” Keegan asked.

“Yeah, that sounds about right.” Jennifer replied with a somber look.

“Well, that is rather late, no wonder it scared you both, was everything okay with her?”

Jo asked.

“Yes, was she alright?” Carol echoed.

“No, you don’t understand…” Keegan began.

“My mom died five years ago!”

“What?” Jo gasped as she shuddered violently.

“Yeah, she died five years ago, Jo…”

“But how then do you know that it was her?” Carol asked.

“Yes, did you actually see her standing there?” Jo added.

“Well no, I didn’t see her. See, she always knocked on my bedroom door before coming in when I was a kid because she respected my privacy. Now she knocks on the front door of my house before she comes in to let me know that it’s her.”

The two ladies sat dumbfounded but believed their young friends.

“The other thing that Keegan hasn’t told you is that our doorbell runs on batteries. There isn’t one in it now and we haven’t put one in it in over a year, so there is no way for it to ring but yet it does and there’s no one on the porch…so you tell us…”

Both Jennifer and Keegan sat smiling at their friends who still sat speechless across from them.

“Well then, it must be your mom, Keegan…” Jo said with a shiver.

“She’s just watching over us from above and wants us to know it.” Keegan said in a reassuring tone.

“And” he added, “A mother’s love never dies…”

Mothers in Quran

Your Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness lower to them the wing of humility and say: 'My Lord! Bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.'"